By The Grown Man Most men think pumping is just about getting bigger. Well, that's how most  of us get into it, no doubt about that. It’s also a wonderful tool for guys recovering from surgery, including on their prostate. It can provide a bit of a tickle-up erection enhancement pre-intercourse, too. What’s the formula? Add pressure, wait a few minutes, admire the temporary size. Job done. I don't want to belittle this, so to speak, but fellas, you’re missing out on some wond

A straight-talk guide for men who want real pleasure, not polite applause. Let’s talk about the thing most guys secretly fear but rarely admit out loud: What if she’s faking it? Not “Hollywood porn-moaning” faking, the full-body performance with supporting sound design.The kind of faking that makes you walk into the kitchen afterward feeling like an idiot holding your victory toast. If your partner has faked an orgasm at some point, welcome to the human race. A widely cited 2

Well, we just had an article on Jingqi and the 10th-century Japanese approach to pleasure, in particular with respect to male orgasm frequency. It made me think about even older approaches to pleasure and the famous Kama Sutra. The pursuit of excellence in endurance and vitality is by no means a modern concept! Our ancestors possessed profound insights into the art of stamina that can be applied to our lives today. The Wisdom of the Ages The Kama Sutra, an ancient Indian text

If Tamba Yasuyori , a 10th-century Japanese court physician, could see modern Pornhub habits and how much we nut in a week, he’d probably faint. His vision of sex and health is still sitting in Tokyo’s imperial archives, in the Ishinhō , a 30-scroll medical compendium he finished in 984. Scroll 28 is basically a manual on longevity through sex. It talks about jingqi , a vital life force, and tells men to cultivate it through long, gentle lovemaking… while only ejaculating thr

Choking during sex used to sound like something you would only see in niche porn. Now it is in hookup stories, group chats, and memes, something many of us have tried at least once, on the giving side or the receiving side. On one big United States campus, a random survey of almost five thousand students found that 58 percent of women had been choked during sex at least once, and a lot of men had either been choked or done the choking. So choking is not a weird outlier anymo

I get this question a lot from guys: “What’s better for girth, clamping or pumping?” Both tools can boost volume, especially girth, and to a lesser extent even length. But they don’t work the same way in your body, they don’t carry the same risks, and they definitely don’t treat your pelvic floor the same. Clamping vs Pumping: What’s the Actual Difference? Both clamping and pumping aim to do one thing:

Plenty of guys can get it up for bad sizing. Not in the fun way, more like a quiet, stubborn denial that the condom aisle might actually be a math problem. They’ll argue about girth on Reddit, measure in secret, but still swear they’re a Magnum guy because that’s the story they’d rather tell themselves. Meanwhile, the numbers don’t lie. Studies from the CDC  and PubMed  show most condoms are longer and tighter than the average penis. Which means plenty of guys are walking aro

For many men, the idea of a partner swallowing hits something deep in their wiring. The excitement comes from being received, from the image of connection made physical. Sex therapist Marty Klein  has written that acts involving bodily fluids often carry a hidden message of acceptance , a way of saying “you’re fully welcome here.” That kind of validation moves through the body faster than thought. Most men don’t articulate it that way, but their bodies react to it as proof of

The position some men side-eye, and the payoff their nerves keep campaigning for. Read together; practice together. Or just forward this with a calendar emoji. The posture alone can set off alarms, reverse blowjob? Knees apart, hips tilted, spine making room for someone else’s mouth. A lot of men are taught to be the one looming over the action, not the one braced and exposed. That script sticks, yet the body has its own politics, and they’re stubborn. The underside of the pe

Three years ago, I downloaded the STAMENA Kegel app . I didn’t tell anyone. It felt like the kind of thing a man has to explore privately, not because it’s shameful, but because it’s intimate. It’s the kind of work that happens in silence, in your own skin. Fast-forward to today: 896 points earned , one point for every day I’ve shown up and done the workout. Not consecutive, but consistent enough to matter. Forward Kegels. Reverse Kegels. Every session, a small vote for contr