What to Send Instead of a Dick Pic: 11 Sexy (and Safe) Ideas
- JELQ2GROW
- May 27
- 4 min read
The unsolicited dick pic has officially entered its tragic era. While it might have seemed bold or even charming in the early 2010s (it wasn’t), the truth is most recipients never asked for it, never wanted it, and definitely don’t find it as seductive as senders might hope.
We get it. The impulse is real. You match with someone, the vibe is good, and part of you wants to send something... spicy. But arousal doesn’t depend on explicit visuals alone. It’s imagination, timing, and personality.
So instead of risking being blocked (or worse, screenshot and memed), here are 11 suggestions we gathered from Reddit, Quora, and anonymous community chats, images, and ideas that recipients actually welcomed. All sexy. Zero dick required.
Better Than A Dick Pic
1. A Lap with Intention
“I once got a pic of a guy’s lap in his car with the caption ‘I want you here.’ It was way hotter than anything explicit.” —Tina, 26
It’s not the view, it’s the invitation. A little imagination goes a long way.
2. Shirtless, But Make It Intimate
“A shirtless pic in bed in the morning just hits different. Especially with glasses. You feel like he’s letting you in.” —Vanessa, 30
Vulnerability, real, relaxed, everyday vulnerability, is seriously underrated.
3. The Bulge Game
“Bulge in grey sweats or boxer briefs. That’s enough. The mystery makes it better.” —Suzette, 37
Turns out, subtlety seduces better than close-ups ever will.
4. Hands Down the Boxers
“I got one where his hand was resting casually in his waistband. That made me imagine everything, and that’s hotter than seeing it all.” —Samantha, 28
Tease, don’t tell. Let her fill in the blanks.
5. Leg Day Appreciation
“My boyfriend sent me a pic of just his legs stretched out across the bed. I did not expect to like it that much.” —Rebekah, 43
Never underestimate the power of a confident, low-effort angle.
6. Strategic Nudity with Humor
“He once sent a nude with a cereal box over his junk. It was stupid. I laughed. I loved it.” —Amanda, 32
If she’s laughing and turned on at the same time, you’re doing something right.
7. A Happy Trail in Boxers
“Happy trails in boxer-briefs, taken from above. I’d take that over a close-up dick pic any day.” —Sarah, 30
This one speaks for itself. Sometimes, showing less shows more.
8. The Art of the Backside
“A guy’s butt in the right lighting and boxer briefs? Underrated.” —Jodie, 26
You focus on her curves, she might appreciate yours too.
9. Send a Place, Not a Body Part
“He once sent a photo of a cozy bar he found and said, ‘I want to take you here.’ I melted.” —Amanda, 37
Desire doesn’t always need skin. Sometimes, it’s about anticipation.
10. Be Personal, Not Explicit
“Post-gym selfies, playing guitar, cooking… I don’t care what he’s doing. I just want to see him being himself.” —Susan, 43
Genuine beats polished. Show her something real.
11. Be a Total Dork (on Purpose)
“He sent me a video of him singing a cheesy love song in a dinosaur onesie. Confidence like that is sexy as hell.” —Caroline, 29
You don’t need to be smooth, just self-aware and fun.
Send Smarter
The unsolicited dick pic is more than a tired digital cliché, it's often received as invasive, jarring, and sometimes even threatening. Artist Whitney Bell explored this uncomfortable truth in her Los Angeles-based exhibit “I Didn’t Ask For This,” which featured over 200 images of unsolicited nudes presented in an intimate, domestic setting. Bell recreated her apartment in detail, each room filled with framed screenshots of the photos she and other women had received. Bedrooms, bathrooms, and living rooms became galleries of digital exposure, making one point unmistakably clear: these violations don’t stay on screens, they enter personal space.
And yet, many men still send them. Why?
The impulse to share our arousal is human. But the belief that a close-up shot of our penis will be received as a gift?
Porn has played a major role in shaping the belief that the penis is meant to impress, that simply revealing it should spark desire. From a young age, many men are exposed to content where the male body is rewarded with attention, pleasure, and admiration, often without much context or connection. That fantasy lingers. So when a guy sends a dick pic, he might be expecting that same instant reaction, validation, arousal, maybe even praise. But outside of porn, those expectations rarely match reality. So when we send a dick pic, it can feel like offering a trophy, expecting awe in return. When that response doesn’t come, the gap between intention and reception becomes painfully clear. Without consent, it’s not intimacy, it’s imposition.
There's a question we rarely ask ourselves: What reaction are we hoping for? Do we expect admiration? Worship? Are we confusing being seen with being desired?
If you find yourself tempted, redirect that energy. A suggestive image doesn’t need to be explicit to spark attraction. Be clever. Be weird. Be subtle. Show personality, not just anatomy.
In the end, what stands out isn’t the pixel count or the pose, it’s how you make someone feel. Thoughtfulness is rare. And rare is hot.
Still want to share a part of yourself? Try a grin. Try a messy kitchen. Try the moment after a good workout. Save the full-frontal for when it’s truly invited.
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